Staying friends when you have different lives

Tell Me About It

Dear Carolyn: My best friend, “Gail,” and I have grown apart the past few years. It’s no one’s fault, we just don’t have anything in common anymore. She’s a stay-at-home mom with two kids under 4, and is busy with all of the things that come with that. I’m single, dating a couple of guys casually, very busy and engaged with my career.

Five years ago we couldn’t be separated, we worked in the same building, roomed together and socialized together. These days, we might catch up a few times a year. We really try to get together but even picking a night when we’re both free to go to a movie is a nightmare, but we managed one last weekend.

At dinner, Gail broke down crying saying that I don’t care about her, don’t make time for her anymore, never go to their house.