Tell Me About It
Dear Carolyn: Hello! Any suggestions for avoiding the ever-fun When are you going to get pregnant? questions? Husband and I are actually trying, havent been as successful as quickly as wed like, and had some hard times a really really really early miscarriage, not even comparable to many women, I know, but it still hurts. Talking about it is stressful and painful and not fun.
Were at that stage when we should be having kids according to my in-laws; we have a house, have been married for a number of years, have steady jobs, etc. We told them once to stop asking because of the reasons listed above, but they insist they want to be there for us on this journey … and their form of being there just makes things worse.
My mom had a really hard time getting pregnant, so shes super sympathetic, doesnt push, but lends an ear when I ask. My mother-in-law, on the other hand, talks about how much easier it wouldve been if we started trying years ago, how she got pregnant SO QUICKLY with her two sons because she started in her early 20s, etc. I dont want to and dont need to hear any of that, so Ive actually gotten up and walked away when shes continued on despite my asking her to change the topic.