Sister resents sibling’s existence



January 30, 2019 - 10:33 AM

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn: I ruined my sister’s life the day I was born, which was cute back then, but we’re almost 50 now. Starting with childhood, most decisions I make (hair, clothes, musical instrument, sports, college, career, house, etc.) somehow ruin her day. She gets visibly upset, highly critical, and accusations of jealousy fly.

I’m not sure why she’s like this, especially considering my decisions have zero effect on her life. She lives her own life, and I’m happy for her. (Really!) We’ve never been close because my existence seems to annoy her.

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