She’s not ready for a baby, but her fiance is

Dear Carolyn: I’m getting married this summer to the man of my dreams and things have been great. We’ve got a new house, I’m graduating college next May and we’re really happy.

He wants a baby really bad. We agreed to wait until I graduate to start our family, but he confessed to me he really wants to have one sooner. I’m not even sure I want one in a year though. If it were completely up to me, I would wait at least a couple of years, but we both compromised. I just don’t want to tell him how I really feel because I know it would break his heart since he wants one so bad. — Confused Fiancee

Telling him how you really feel isn’t what will break his heart. Your wanting something different from what he wants so badly is the heartbreaker, and you’re already there, so the best thing you can do is be honest about that as soon as possible.