Some comments are too hurtful to fix

A reader's hurtful comment to a partner, with comparisons to the reader's ex, may have cut too deep to salvage their relationship, Carolyn Hax warns.



April 22, 2022 - 3:22 PM

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Dear Carolyn: I recently told my partner that sex has never been as good as sex with my ex. I was angry and I wanted to cause hurt and I said it. Maybe I enjoyed saying it, too. It made me feel sexy.

But now I regret it. My partner has not enjoyed having sex with me since. We keep trying, but it always falls apart, of the assumption that, during sex, I am thinking of how I would rather be with my ex.

Is there a way to fix this? — Angela

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