Mom doesn’t get to weigh in on weight

Reader's weight gain leads to hurtful feelings from mother. Mom should eat those words, Carolyn Hax advises.



April 14, 2020 - 9:47 AM

Dear Carolyn: I am 45, I have two children, a great husband and a successful business. I am not thin, I could lose 15 to 20 pounds. I’m different from the trail runner I was 15 years ago, but I am happier. I am more confident; I have stronger and better friends. I spend better time with my friends and my relatives.

And yet . . . and yet, the look of disgust from my mother cannot be hidden. Her comments about everyone’s weight and size are hurtful. She is a strong, smart, caring woman, but her constant focus on size, food and diet is awful. I hate that this puts distance between us.

I have friends who are much heavier than I am — heck, they are all sizes! — and I love them.

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