Hi, Carolyn: My 30-year-old son and his wife are separated with plans to divorce. The story I was given in a nutshell is that she had not gotten over her ex-boyfriend and is now back together with him.
I get it; life is messy, and they are young enough — and childless/propertyless enough — to start over without much trouble. My son is accomplished and handsome and will bounce back just fine. But he really loved this woman, and I hurt for him.
My daughter-in-law just sent me a long email asking me to consider maintaining a relationship with her after the divorce. We got along well, and in a way it would make sense, but I am finding that I just can’t think nice thoughts about her right now. What is the most elegant and fair way to say that? — N.J.