Husband a little too helpful to his ex

A reader has grown uncomfortable with the amount of time and energy her husband spends to help his ex-girlfriend with day-to-day tasks. His guilt has led to an unusual request.



February 7, 2022 - 9:12 AM

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Adopted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn: My husband has an ex-girlfriend with whom he has stayed good friends for the 10 years since their breakup. (She refers to him as being “like a brother.”) She is now a single mom and doesn’t have much of a support system. The baby’s father is not local.

My husband has shown his ex a lot of support by bringing her small meals, sitting outside with the baby monitor for half an hour while his ex takes a jog, and other things that I would imagine she really appreciates as she teleworks while being a single parent. (We do not have kids.)

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