He’s hot for her, but she’s in a lukewarm relationship

Maybe she needs some time to think about what she wants, without the pressure of a new love.



March 19, 2020 - 9:46 AM

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Dear Carolyn: I’ve got a very common problem with an uncommon twist: I’m in love with a woman who is in a long-term relationship with someone else. She also seems to be very much in love with me and not with her partner.

The twist is that she can’t seem to make up her mind whether to honor her commitment to him and live a life she claims is tepid and unsatisfying or take a chance on a real and lasting love with me.

I just got out of a very unhappy marriage, so I can understand both her desire for something more and her difficulty in taking that enormous leap. But I’m not interested in being “the other man” and she’s not really the cheating type anyway. What advice would you give her about how to choose? — B.

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