Dear Carolyn: We lost our father this year, and I am dreading the holidays without him. I was closer to my dad than my out-of-state siblings, who are now hosting traditional holiday events that would require boarding the dog and arranging a hotel room for us rather than our Christmas celebration at my dads beautiful house, a 10-minute car ride from here. The house has been sold and I miss my dad every day.
I am not sure I even want to be there and Ive been told I have to. I dont feel like a party. I dont want to put the dog in the kennel. And yet I am not sure if staying apart from my siblings this year is selfish, tinged with self-pity and something Ill regret. Dreading the Holidays
Dreading the Holidays: Im so sorry for your loss.