Friends amp up the pressure to have a larger family

Family planning is not their business.



February 14, 2020 - 3:16 PM

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Dear Carolyn: My partner and I have a wonderful (and wild) 3-year-old girl. We both work full time, and she attends a loving preschool. We live four to five hours away from any family.

Lately, other friends have had a second or third child. That’s great for them.

But what I don’t appreciate is the pressure we get from our friends to have more kids. We have decided not to for a variety of reasons, with the No. 1 reason being the prohibitively expensive child care and the financial inability for one parent to stay home. Yet we are constantly hammered by friends to “go for the second.” Friends have said our daughter will be an entitled weirdo if she’s an only child, particularly since we live far from family.

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