Dad didn’t earn the right to walk her down the aisle



January 20, 2020 - 9:28 AM

Dear Carolyn: I always knew my sister was my dad’s favorite. He always made time to show up at her cheerleading competitions but never to my soccer games. Not once. Then there were the daddy-daughter dances at our high school. My sister and dad loved them so much, and I couldn’t wait until it was my turn. My dad travels almost every weekend for work, so the fact that he’d stay home and go to the dances was really important. When my turn came, my dad didn’t decline weekend work for me, not even my senior year, after he promised he’d make it.

I know it sounds stupid but that really broke my heart. At my sister’s wedding my dad gave a toast about how she was his “special little girl” who he loved so much that he actually turned down work to go to dances with her. I had to force myself not to cry.

Now I’m getting married and there’s no way I want him walking me down the aisle, having a special dance with me or giving a toast. I told my mom so she could be the one to tell him and she is begging me to reconsider, saying I’m being petty and making a spectacle of myself.

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